Holding back to keep their approval
Speak for your value.
Ask for what you need. Have clearer conversations about your work, fees and boundaries.
A conversation you stop avoiding.
This is where I want changePrivate identity
& mindset coaching
For the life you want.
For who you are becoming.
A life beyondyour old story.
More self-trust. Clearer boundaries.
Choices that feel like yours.
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The change you came for
Back yourself.
Live on your terms.
For the person who looks capable on the outside, but keeps second-guessing, over-giving or chasing the next milestone within. This is the change we work towards.
Saying yes while feeling no
Make room for your needs.
Recognise the patterns you bring into relationships. Practise expressing a need or setting a boundary with care.
A need you can name and communicate.
This is where I want changeWaiting to feel good enough
Build trust in yourself.
Question the rules that make your worth conditional. Practise choosing from your values, rather than seeking constant approval.
A choice that feels more like your own.
This is where I want changeAchieving more. Feeling no closer.
Define success on your terms.
Get clearer about what matters beyond achievement. Make space for choices that feel meaningful in your everyday life.
A priority you choose for yourself.
This is where I want changeWhich change matters most to you?
Bring it to a conversation. We will explore whether this work is right for you.
These are goals we can work towards together. Your focus and progress are personal.01 / The stories we live by
What story
are you living by?
A thought can feel so familiar that we stop questioning it. Choose an area and follow one example.
For founders & professionals
“If I ask for more, I might lose their approval.”
Notice when you hold back from a clear conversation about your value.
Examples for reflection. Your experience may be different.02 / The identity beneath the pattern
A pattern is not the whole of you.01 / Notice
The familiar
response.
If I ask for more, I might lose their approval.
Start with a moment you recognise. What happened? What did you tell yourself? What did you do next?
02 / Understand
The story
underneath.
What does their approval mean to you?
We explore what the response means to you. A belief about approval, worth or safety may be part of the story.
03 / Choose
A different
possibility.
I can explain my value and listen to their response.
A new response does not have to feel natural immediately. We make room to question, explore and rehearse it.
04 / Practise
One choice.
In real life.
Prepare one honest conversation about your work, fees or boundaries.
The work continues in an ordinary day. Try a small step, notice what happens and bring that experience back.
03 / The Identity Shift Method
Inner work.
Real life.
Four stages give our work direction. Your goals, comfort and progress shape what happens within them.
01 / Map
Choose what matters now.
We reflect on eight areas of your life. Together, we choose a focus and describe what useful progress would look like.
YOUR REFLECTION
One agreed focus.Notice when you hold back from a clear conversation about your value.
02 / Root
Understand the familiar story.
We explore the beliefs, experiences and responses connected to that focus. There may be several influences; we leave room for yours.
YOUR REFLECTION
A clearer view of what keeps the pattern going.What does their approval mean to you?
03 / Rewire
Explore another way to respond.
I explain the practices we could use and why. Together, we consider what is appropriate before making space for a different response.
YOUR REFLECTION
Practices discussed and chosen with you.I can explain my value and listen to their response.
04 / Embody
Bring the work into your week.
Reflection becomes practice between sessions. We review what happened, notice difficulties and adjust the next step together.
YOUR REFLECTION
Real experiences to reflect on, not a result to perform.Prepare one honest conversation about your work, fees or boundaries.
A room to pause.
Space to become.
Real conversations. Shared reflection.
A glimpse of Harshita’s work, in her own world.
04 / Meet Harshita
A life can look fine.
And feel otherwise.
My own experience of difficult relationships and inner work led me to coaching. It taught me to look beyond the version of a life that other people see.
“We have the paintbrush in our hands.”Harshita, on Instagram
I work with people who want to understand themselves and make more deliberate choices. I bring personal understanding to our conversations, without assuming your story follows mine.
Based in Mumbai. Working online and in person, with experience supporting clients in Dubai.
Built around your life
A deeply customised journey, beginning with the area that matters most to you.
More than a conversation
Exercises, reflection and work to try between meetings bring the focus into your week.
Room to review
Mid-week progress checks and feedback help us see what is changing and what needs attention.
Her story +
Achievement was a familiar part of my life: studies, performance and doing what was expected of me. But looking capable did not always mean feeling secure within myself.
Difficult experiences in relationships and work led me to look more closely at the beliefs I carried. Therapy was part of that journey, alongside coaching and reflective practices.
Exploring approaches such as NLP, hypnotherapy and breathwork helped me understand myself differently. My own experience of inner work shaped the coaching I went on to offer.
Today, I take time to understand the person in front of me. The work is deeply customised, with practices, reflection and progress checks shaped around what they bring.
I do not assume your story follows mine. We start with yours.
The work, up close
Personal attention.
Practical inner work.
Your sessions are shaped around you. We begin with what matters, choose practices with care, and keep returning to what is changing in everyday life.
A clearer starting point.
The Wheel of Life helps us reflect across eight areas and identify where dissatisfaction is strongest. Together, we choose a useful focus.
A session built around you.
Conversation, reflection and selected practices respond to the person and the moment. The approach is customised, rather than a fixed set of techniques for everyone.
Something to take into your week.
Learning becomes practice through exercises and homework. A small commitment gives you something real to try between sessions.
Room to review and adjust.
Progress checks, feedback and the changes you notice help us review the work. We make room for difficulties as well as wins.
Practices may include
Belief-focused conversation · Guided visualisation · Breathwork · Journalling · Mindfulness · Reflective exercises
We discuss what a practice involves and whether it is appropriate for you.Talk to Harshita
A clearer focus. A practical next step.
05 / In her own words
Feel the presence.
Hear the perspective.
Watch a moment from Harshita’s work with a group.
Original footage from Harshita’s Instagram. Press play for sound.
See the original postA moment within / Your private reflection
Make a little
room for yourself.
Pause for three short questions. Write a little, or simply think.
06 / Work together
Private space.
A clear commitment.
You do not need to choose a programme alone. Start with what you want to change. We discuss the right level of support before you commit.
Private coaching / A focused beginning
Identity Shift 1:1
For a pattern you are ready to explore in depth. A private space to choose one focus, practise between sessions and review what changes.
- Private sessions on an agreed schedule
- Practices chosen around your focus
- Mid-week progress checks
- Practices and assignments between sessions
3 months · private₹1,75,000Talk to Harshita
No payment at enquiry.
Scope and schedule agreed before you begin.
This work asks for your participation. Come ready to explore a familiar pattern, try practices between sessions and reflect honestly on what happens.
See what sessions involve026 months · privateIdentity Shift 1:1 · Deep
₹2,75,000+
Identity Shift 1:1 · Deep
A longer space to explore connected patterns in relationships, identity and self-worth, with time to practise between sessions.
- Everything in the 3-month
- Room for more than one constraint
- Regression and inner-child work where it applies
- Integration phase built in
036 months · private + accessThe Inner Circle
₹4,50,000+
The Inner Circle
For people who need me between the sessions, not only in them.
- Everything in the 6-month
- Voice-note access between sessions
- Two in-person intensives
- Priority scheduling
04Free resource · coming soonThe Wheel of Life diagnostic
Free+
The Wheel of Life diagnostic
A self-guided Wheel of Life resource is being prepared. Register your interest to hear when it is available.
- Reflect on eight areas of your life
- Helps you choose one area to focus on
- Availability will be confirmed by email
- No call required
058 weeks · group · WaitlistIdentity Shift Cohort
₹30,000+
Identity Shift Cohort
The same method, run with a small group. The way in if the private work is out of reach right now.
- Eight weekly live sessions
- Full method, group format
- Private community for the cohort
- Capped at 30 seats
International pricing & programme details +
Outside India? We discuss your time zone, session arrangements and payment details before you commit.
US$3,500 / AED 12,500 — 3 months
US$5,500 / AED 20,000 — 6 months
- Payment arrangements, cancellation terms and the session schedule are confirmed before you commit.
- Sending an enquiry does not enrol you in a programme or take a payment.
- The free self-guided resource is being prepared. You can register your interest separately.
07 / Before you begin
A little
more clarity.
How is this different from therapy?+
Coaching focuses on personal goals, reflection and practices between sessions. Therapy can support a broad range of needs, including mental health treatment. This coaching does not diagnose or treat mental illness and does not replace care from a qualified healthcare professional.
I have done coaching before and nothing stuck. Why would this be different?+
We explore the beliefs connected to your goal, agree practical steps and review what happens between sessions. The application call helps us consider whether this approach fits your needs. Previous experience does not predict or guarantee your result here.
Why packages, and not a price per session?+
A programme gives us time for reflection, practice and review across several sessions. The length, session schedule and payment terms are discussed before you commit.
What actually happens in a session?+
There is a structure — map, root, rewire, embody — and inside it the modality is chosen for what you brought that day. Some sessions are conversation. Some are hypnosis or somatic work. Every session ends with something specific to do before the next one.
Do you work with people outside India?+
Yes. I have worked with clients in Dubai. We discuss your location, time zone, session arrangements and payment details before you commit.
What if it does not work?+
Outcomes vary and I cannot guarantee a particular result. We agree a focus, review progress and discuss what needs adjusting. If the approach is not helping or a different kind of support is needed, we address that together.
Your next chapter
Less performing.
More becoming.
We can begin with what you recognise. An application call is a chance to discuss your goals and whether this work fits.
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